Relationship

Beloved Osho, is there any biological chance of an unconditioned, free and loving relationship between child and parent?

Give the child all your experiences. Make him aware that he was conceived in a very loving orgasmic moment, that love is a great gift of existence. And you have to make love the central point of your life, because only through love can you step beyond blind nature into the world of super-nature, where no blindness exists, where you become a seer. Yes, it is possible, but not possible through biology alone. It is possible if you are courageous enough to make your love your temple, your place of meditation. Then you will be attracting a soul already having the potential of uniqueness. And then give him every possibility for freedom, even if it goes against you. The freedom of your child is more valuable, because your child is the future of mankind. Your days are past. What does it matter if it goes against you? What have you…

Could we say that ramakrishna exploited vivekananda?

It could be said but it should not be said, because the word conveys an idea of condemnation behind it. He did not exploit him to gain something selfish for himself; his idea was that through Vivekananda others will be benefited. He exploited him only in the sense that he made use of him. There is a great difference between exploitation and utilization. When I am dealing with something or using something for the sake of my ego, then it becomes exploitation. But when I am doing something for the world, for the universe, for everybody, there is no question of exploitation. Besides, where is the certainty that if Ramakrishna had not shown him the glimpse, Vivekananda would have got it in this life by himself? This point can be decided only by those who are enlightened. I feel that would have been the case, but we cannot show any…

Osho, can it be said that Ramakrishna exploited Vivekananda?

There is no difficulty in saying it. But the word itself is not merely a pointer; it carries condemnation within it. Therefore it should not be said. In the word “exploitation” there is denunciation, a deep condemnation. He did not exploit him—because Ramakrishna had nothing to take from Vivekananda. But there was the idea that through Vivekananda something could reach others. In that sense, yes, he used him—he certainly used him. But there is a great difference between use and exploitation. “Exploitation” is where I, ego-centered, am pulling something toward my own ego and using it; there it becomes exploitation. But where I am doing something for the world, for the whole, for all, there is no reason to call it exploitation. And you also haven’t considered that if Ramakrishna had not shown that glimpse, it is not at all certain that Vivekananda would still have attained it. That it…

Beloved Osho, I am familiar with the master-disciple relationship after years of being around you. Could you please comment on the disciple-disciple relationship?

There is no such thing. Disciples in the past have created organizations. That was their relationship, that "we are Christians," that "we are Mohammedans," that "we belong to one religion, to one faith and because we belong to one faith, we are brothers and sisters. We will live for the faith and we will die for the faith." All organizations have arisen out of the relationships between disciples. In fact, two disciples are not connected with each other at all. Each disciple is connected with the master in his individual capacity. A master can be connected with millions of disciples, but the connection is personal, not organizational. Disciples don't have any relationship. Yes, they have a certain friendliness, a certain lovingness. I am avoiding the word `relationship' because that is binding. I am not calling it friendship even, but `friendliness' -- because they are all fellow travelers walking on the…