According to Osho, there is no biological chance—biology is blind; only through meditation can parents transcend conditioning. If conception and parenting arise from deep meditative love—egoless, timeless, silent—then an unconditioned, free, loving relationship becomes not just possible but almost certain. Use the orgasmic moment as a door to meditation, transforming biology into a stepping-stone to consciousness, so the child is conceived and raised without imposed ideologies or ego.
No—biology alone can’t create such freedom; it becomes possible when parents are meditative, conceiving and loving from a quiet, egoless heart.
From the Discourses
Passages where Osho speaks to this question — each links to the complete discourse.
Beloved Osho, is there any biological chance of an unconditioned, free and loving relationship between child and parent?
Give the child all your experiences. Make him aware that he was conceived in a very loving orgasmic moment, that love is a great gift of existence. And you have to make love the central point of your life, because only through love can you step beyond blind nature into the world of super-nature, where no blindness exists, where you become a seer. Yes, it is possible, but not possible through biology alone. It is possible if you are courageous enough to make your love your temple, your place of meditation. Then you will be attracting a soul already having the potential of uniqueness. And then give him every possibility for freedom, even if it goes against you. The freedom of your child is more valuable, because your child is the future of mankind. Your days are past. What does it matter if it goes against you? What have you…
Osho, if parents meditate before conception and during pregnancy, what effect does it have on the child?
And if, for the full nine months, the mother carries the child in meditation—does nothing contrary to meditation, and does everything that supports meditation—then certainly, in these nine months, a Buddha can be born. These nine months are the formative moments of the child. And in these nine months let him have only the experience of love, of peace, of light. If in these nine months he has only one experience—the experience of his own inner power—then at birth he will not be an ordinary child; he will be extraordinary. We will have laid the foundation of his life, and the temple that rises on that foundation cannot be different from it. Therefore whenever parents come to me with complaints about their children, I have told them: you may feel hurt, but you are responsible. You must have laid the wrong foundation. Today your child is a bandit; today your…
When two people move higher and higher in love, and a point comes where their personalities are no longer separate and boundaries dissolve, then they give birth to children. Then the children come from a higher plane. They have a personality of love -- they are not only by-products of sex. They carry a deep harmony within them, and if you become aware, you can see whether the child is a by-product of a sexual meeting or a by-product of love. A different aura surrounds the child, a different vibration, because he has to carry that original quality of oneness. When a child is born out of love you give something to the world. When a child is just from a sexual meeting, you simply over-populate the world; you don't give anything. Remember also, that when you give birth to a child out of deep love?
Osho, without mamatā, without the feeling of mine-ness, is it possible for a mother to bring up her children with tenderness? How did mamatā become synonymous with mine-ness? And is there no relation between mamatā and love?
No, there is no love in mamatā. In mamatā there is ownership. And where is love in ownership? An owner is a man of things. How can one own persons? Kabir even says: do not be the owner of things either. That too is an excess with God. It is injustice; it is immoral. Feel a little modesty—what is ours here? All is his. These trees that have grown in this garden—will you say they are ours? What have you done in them? You cannot produce even a single leaf. They belong to whom they belong—to God. Yes, you have rendered a little service: you watered them; you brought manure. You became the instrument. God made use of you. Thank him: “You gave me a little chance to serve these trees!” But the trees are not yours. Nor are the children yours. One cannot have a claim over life. To…
Question: BELOVED OSHO, AND A WOMAN WHO HELD A BABE AGAINST HER BOSOM SAID, SPEAK TO US OF CHILDREN. AND HE SAID: YOUR CHILDREN ARE NOT YOUR CHILDREN. THEY ARE THE SONS AND DAUGHTERS OF LIFE'S LONGING FOR ITSELF. THEY COME THROUGH YOU BUT NOT FROM YOU, AND THOUGH THEY ARE WITH YOU YET THEY BELONG NOT TO YOU. YOU MAY GIVE THEM YOUR LOVE BUT NOT YOUR THOUGHTS, FOR THEY HAVE THEIR OWN THOUGHTS. YOU MAY HOUSE THEIR BODIES BUT NOT THEIR SOULS, FOR THEIR SOULS DWELL IN THE HOUSE OF TOMORROW, WHICH YOU CANNOT VISIT, NOT EVEN IN YOUR DREAMS. YOU MAY STRIVE TO BE LIKE THEM, BUT SEEK NOT TO MAKE THEM LIKE YOU. FOR LIFE GOES NOT BACKWARDS NOR TARRIES WITH YESTERDAY. YOU ARE THE BOWS FROM WHICH YOUR CHILDREN AS LIVING ARROWS ARE SENT FORTH.