According to Osho, you struggle to accept your husband because marriage, as a social institution, breeds bondage, possessiveness, and the urge to control, destroying each partner’s freedom—the highest human value. That loss of freedom turns into chronic anger projected onto the spouse, fueling the compulsion to fix or change them. Real love honors freedom; drop bondage and give space.
You want to change him because feeling tied down in marriage creates fear and control—real love gives space and freedom.