According to Osho, contradictions in relationship are intrinsic because love is a koan: two differently conditioned, polar beings inevitably clash, and the more you try to manage or control it, the more puzzling it becomes. A problem-free bond is either dead or suppressed. Real harmony arises only when each partner becomes meditative—rooted in inner silence and self-knowing—then love stops multiplying confusion.
Relationships feel mixed-up because they’re a riddle you can’t solve by pushing; first find calm and clarity inside, then being together works better.