According to Osho, close relationships self-balance: if one partner over-identifies with calm, virtue, or “heaven,” the other is pushed into heat, vice, or “hell.” Roles polarize by compensation. The remedy is authenticity—allow natural anger, sadness, and joy—so neither must enact the opposite extreme. This balancing also plays out in life at large. Drop pretenses, share humanity, and meet in ordinariness.
If you act too perfect or calm, your partner gets forced into being the upset one; be real so you both share feelings fairly.