According to Osho, you can’t neatly separate ‘their aggression’ from ‘your issue’ because life is interdependent. Treat aggression as a mirror: first ask, What in me may trigger this? Then inquire compassionately with them—Do I remind you of someone? Have I hurt you? Often it’s their past (parental imprints) projecting onto you. Don’t react; understand, clarify, and dissolve it through awareness and dialogue.
When someone is harsh, pause and kindly check if you’re triggering them and ask about it—often they’re reacting to old hurts, not really to you.