What happens when I force situations instead of accepting them?

Beloved Osho, why am I forcing situations according to my will, instead of accepting them and letting them just happen? I have a feeling that my body makes me aware of it, reacting with high fever.

Devam Navyo, the upbringing of man is so poisonous, so crippling, that it destroys all that is significant and valuable in you and replaces it with cruelty, violence, a desire to dominate. The whole of society from all sides supports this destruction of your innocence; it is favorable to them. Forcing anything simply means you are forcing against yourself. This creates the schizophrenia, the split personality which is fighting with itself. This is the most ugly and destructive device which has been used by the vested interests for thousands of years. They found a simple clue for how to destroy the individual. The individual is a danger -- a danger against exploitation, a danger against slavery, a danger against any kind of enforcement. An individual would die rather than submit. Individuality has a dignity.... But man has been taken away from his individuality by a simple device. Put the individual…

The theory that we have to push, force and kick ourselves -- is.this true? I hate fighting myself.

Look at the question. I go on saying to you that truth is not somewhere else, it is here. You have not to struggle your way towards it. It is through the struggle that you are missing it. You are not to push the river. By pushing the river you will never reach anywhere. You will simply get tired and exhausted. By pushing the river you are only creating the possibility of your utter failure. You cannot fight with the river. The river is huge -- life's river, the river of existence, is so huge -- and you are so tiny. You are just a ripple in the ocean -- a ripple trying to fight with the ocean, trying to direct the ocean, trying to achieve a private goal. It is simply ridiculous. And all struggle makes you ridiculous; all struggle makes you tired, exhausted, dull, sad, miserable. But one…

[A sannyasin says: I'm changing all the time... Since the group, I don't know... I don't like talking, I don't like laughing... I feel like crying... ] Whatsoever happens, accept and enjoy, and don't force anything. If you feel like talking, talk. If you feel like being silent, be silent -- just move with the feeling. Don't force in any way, not even for a single moment, because once you force anything you are divided in two -- and that creates the problem, then your whole life becomes split. The whole of humanity has become almost schizophrenic, because we have been taught to force things. the part that wants to laugh and the part that doesn't allow you to laugh become separate, and then you are divided in two. You create a topdog and an underdog, and so there is conflict.

The process does arise, doesn’t it? It comes very strongly in my mind.

No, you have not understood me—you have not understood what I’m saying. What I mean is this: very often we even take up “witnessing” and “acceptance” as tools for fighting. Our difficulty is that this fighting mind of ours is so deep-rooted that if I say to you, “By accepting, anger will disappear,” you say, “All right, I’ll accept—but the anger must go.” Then you turn acceptance itself into a weapon of struggle. Such acceptance can never be complete. No; when I say that with acceptance anger will go, I’m not saying that if you accept you will successfully separate yourself from anger. I am saying that the spontaneous consequence of acceptance is the disappearance of anger. If the consequence is not coming, understand that there is a lack in the acceptance. If the consequence is not coming, know that there is a deficiency in the acceptance! And if you…

The question is: “It isn’t difficult for me to accept ‘what is’ on the physical plane, but on the mental plane—apart from ambition and the hatred born of it, lovelessness, violence, and a destructive bent—what else is there? Could anyone be narrower of mind or pettier in intention than I am?”

Analyze twenty-four hours of your life. You’ll find: anger comes, remorse comes, then anger again. Love comes, hatred comes, then love again. Friendship forms, enmity comes, then friendship again. So it goes—the spokes keep turning, the wheel of life keeps revolving. A wheel means repetition. When will you awaken from this repetition? Do something! Do one thing: until now you have tried to change—now accept! With acceptance, a new dimension opens. You’ve never done this. Do this utterly new thing. And I’m not speaking of helplessness—I’m speaking of gratitude. “Whatever God has given has a purpose. If anger is given, it has a purpose.” Your great men keep advising, “Let there be no anger,” but God does not listen. Again a child is born—and he comes with anger. For centuries sages have advised, and yet neither you nor God have listened. No one listens to sages. They must all have…