According to Osho, you can’t escape a troubled marriage merely by divorcing for the children. Hell and heaven are inner states; unless you change your own mind, you will recreate the same misery with someone else. Take responsibility, stop blaming, and transform your way of being. Only then can you truly help your children and break the cycle they otherwise inherit.
Don’t run away; change yourself first so your kids learn love instead of repeating the same hurt.