According to Osho, relationships reveal your state of consciousness: the 'sleeping' mind either chases or avoids the other, giving them exaggerated importance, while the awakened meet the other without fear or craving. The real task is inner awakening; then relating becomes natural, respectful, and unneurotic—an expression of character rather than a compensation for inner emptiness.
Healthy relationships come when you are awake inside, not needy or scared.