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Why do I feel both happiness and sadness at the same time?

Happiness and sadness coexist because you are caught between the comfort of the familiar and the fear of transformation; only through courage and inner silence can you embrace the dance of life.

— Osho
According to Osho, you feel happy because you can understand my words; you cannot yet understand silence, which requires your own silence. You feel sad because my speaking is unpredictable and may disturb your beliefs; I keep moving, not offering fixed catechisms. Mixed feelings arise from enjoying the familiar while fearing transformation; courage and inner silence resolve the tension.

You like the words you can follow, but you fear they’ll shake your beliefs; be quiet inside and brave enough to change.

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Come Follow To You Vol 3 · Discourse 6Question 6 1975-12-16 Buddha Hall English

This morning in the dancing meditation I found myself crying heart-rent tears of happiness. What is this strange paradox?

Life is a paradox; paradox in its nature. It is not strange. But you are so much addicted to logic that whenever life reveals itself to you, it looks strange. Logic has been continuously taught to you -- that contradictory things cannot exist together. Logic has been teaching you that either it is day or it is night; either it is life or it is death, either it is happiness or it is unhappiness. The whole mechanism of logic is of 'either-or'. And life is both together. Life is all together. Whenever you reach to the deepest sadness, suddenly you will see it is turning into happiness. Or, you reach to the deepest happiness and you will see that it is turning into sadness. At the centre they meet; only on the periphery are they separate. It is just as if you make a circle, and from the centre you…

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Come Follow To You Vol 4 · Discourse 8Question 5 1975-12-28 Buddha Hall English

Day by day, near you, I find myself liking my sadness. What is happening to me, Osho?

That's how it should be. If you can like your sadness also, then the sadness is no longer sad. The sadness is sad because you dislike it. The sadness is sad because you would not like to be in it. The sadness is sad because you reject it. Even sadness becomes a flowering of tremendous beauty, of silence, of depth, if you like it. Nothing is wrong; that's what I want you to be: to like everything that happens, even sadness. Even death has to be loved; only then will you transcend death. If you can accept death, love and welcome it, now death cannot kill you; you have transcended it. When sadness comes, accept it. Listen to its song. It has something to give to you. It has a gift which no happiness can give to you, only sadness can give it. Happiness is always shallow; sadness, always deep.…

Osho, living in the ashram I feel very blissful; but sometimes, suddenly, I become sad. What is this sadness that comes and goes? Please explain.

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Osho, why am I extremely sad when there is no reason at all to be sad?

Perhaps for that very reason. When there is a reason for sadness, one can at least understand: well, there is a cause; at least there is a cause, so I am sad. There is a pretext. No one will call you mad. You can say: my wife died, my son went to jail, my shop collapsed, I went bankrupt. Then there is logic to your sadness. With logic, you feel safe. You can say it is perfectly natural to be sad. What else can I do? If your wife died, you too would be sad. If your business went bankrupt, you too would cry. So it isn’t only me who weeps. You can give reasons for your tears. The greatest sadness is when there is no reason at all. Then it becomes absurd. You cannot even say why you are sad. You cannot defend your sadness. You cannot gather arguments…
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