What happens in a relationship when both partners' egos drop?

What happens in and with the relationship between two partners if their egos drop?

Every day some couple comes to me and says 'We would like to change the partners. Enough is enough. We are tired.' But what will you do? You will do the same with the other person. It is not going to make much difference. Maybe for a few days, the fantasy, the romance, the honeymoon, and again... And they know it -- because they have done it before too. And they nod their heads in agreement. And they say 'Yes, that's true. I have been doing this to many women. But what to do? I am stuck again.' Rather than changing the partner, rather than dropping your woman or man, drop your ego. Dropping that ego, a different quality starts taking shape in your life, a different light, a different vision. And things settle in that vision. With that light coming in, all old miseries and conflicts and anguishes disappear.…

Love simply moans surrendering the ego. Don't live any more as an ego, Drop the idea that you are separate, forget completely that you are a different entity. We are rooted in existence, we are one with it, part of it ; we live through it, it lives through us. We are intertwined, we are interdependent. You cannot exist without the whole, and the whole also cannot exist without you. If it could exist without you it would have existed without you. Just that you are is proof enough that existence needs you in some way, you are fulfilling a certain need. Even the smallest blade of grass is as needed as the greatest star. There is no hierarchy in existence. Nobody is higher and nobody is lower, and nobody is more needed and nobody is less needed. All is needed because existence means the togetherness of all.

When all I know of love is its attachments, how can I drop them? All I can see is the ego clinging to what it believes is love.

Remain alert, because if love becomes attachment you will never function in your totality. The energy has moved in a wrong way. Don't a]low love to become attachment, remain alert! Allow love absolute freedom, even if sometimes it is painful -- it is. But that pain is also beautiful. When you suffer for freedom, that suffering is good. When you are comfortable because of bondage, that comfortableness is bad. I have heard one story, that one man, a great priest, dreamed one night that he was in a beautiful place, sleeping under a tree, a cool breeze passing, subtle fragrance of flowers, birds singing; he couldn't imagine a more heavenly moment. He looked around -- it was really peaceful, beautiful. He thought in his mind he must be in paradise! But he was feeling hungry, so he thought: But where to get food? I am feeling hungry. Suddenly an angel…

And there is nobody else who is giving any alternative, because nobody has the guts to accept all the condemnation that will come. But I am immune to condemnation, because except condemnation nothing has ever come to me. So it does not bother me at all. I have not lost a single moment's sleep for it. I have never thought about it. I have gone on saying whatsoever feels right to me. Nobody has answered me in these thirty years, but everybody from every religion, from every political ideology, has condemned me. They have given no argument against my argument, nor have been able to propose another alternative.

Beloved Osho, would you talk to us about our living partners -- our wives, husbands and lovers. When should we persevere with a partner, and when should we abandon a relationship as hopeless -- or even destructive? And are our relationships influenced by previous lives?

Kabir has said somewhere: I look into people. They are so much afraid, but I can't see why -- because they have nothing to lose. Says Kabir: They are like a person who is naked, but never goes to take a bath in the river because he is afraid -- where will he dry his clothes? This is the situation you are in -- naked, with no clothes, but always afraid about the clothes. What have you got to lose? Nothing. This body will be taken by death. Before it is taken by death, give it to love. Whatsoever you have will be taken away. Before it is taken away, why not share it? That is the ONLY way of possessing it. If you can share and give, you are the master. It is going to be taken away. There is nothing which you can retain forever. Death will destroy…