How can I be with a woman who is married to someone else?

Osho! If a man does not find sexual fulfillment with his wife, he goes to other women. In doing so he feels guilty, because he receives all other comforts from his wife and wants her for all those things. When he feels guilty his mind becomes tense. What should he do so that his mind is not tense, or should he stop going elsewhere for his sexual satisfaction?

Notice this: a naked woman will not arouse you as much as a woman undressing will. Even if she is crude and awkward, her undressing will be more exciting than seeing the most beautiful woman already naked. When she is already naked, your imagination has no work to do. But when a woman slowly removes her clothes, one by one—this is the method of striptease and cabaret everywhere—your curiosity deepens: just one more, one more, one more... Nasruddin’s beloved bought a miniskirt. Modern, but a little shy. She said, “Look, Nasruddin, this skirt is so short, what if my underwear shows? Please check—can you see my underwear? Otherwise, if people see it, it will be vulgar.” Nasruddin looked. “No, it doesn’t show.” She bent a little more. “Now look. Now it doesn’t show?” “It doesn’t show.” She bent more. Nasruddin said, “Nothing shows.” She bent even more. Nasruddin said, “Absolutely…

Beloved Osho, you say that the love between a lover and his beloved can be lasting, but not that between a husband and wife. But yesterday you described the love between rama and sita as so total that they were content with each other for their whole life. Is this possible? Or is this the exception which proves the rule? And if this is possible, how so? And another thing, you have given sannyas to many married couples as well as to lovers. How should they reconcile their sex and married life with their sadhana and sannyas? Please give us some guidance.

So don't think that all the stone statues you come across have always been devoid of meaning; many times love has happened there too, a devotee has found God through his love for these stones. The question is not of the stone outside, but of the heart within. If you really watch the devotee in his relationship with the stone statue, his behavior with it, you will come to see that you have not begun to relate like that even with living human beings. His involvement and his care for his stone statue are worth seeing. At dawn he awakens his statue, his beloved, ringing the bell at his door and saying: "Rise now, O Nand-kishore! The dawn has come." Not understanding what lies behind this madness, we can easily laugh at this devotee washing the face and cleaning the teeth of his beloved, raising him up and changing his…

[A sannyasin is leaving for the West.] Wherever you are, start working for me -- you are ready for it now. And remember one thing: there are many things that you will learn only by teaching people, many things that you will get only by sharing with people. Unless you share your joys they tend to die. A constant sharing is needed to keep them alive and flowing. So whenever you experience something of the extraordinary share it immediately. Share with your friends, acquaintances, family, share with all those you love and you care for. And you will be surprised: if you share, it grows. Sharing is feeding it, nursing it. The more fragrance is released, the more capable you become of releasing. So never hoard any experience inside, otherwise it goes stale. It not only dies, it becomes poisonous to the system.

Question: BELOVED OSHO, CAN I EVER BE HAPPY WITH MY WIFE? Love affairs have been failing, and parents feel very happy. People come to me and they say, "Look, in the West love affairs have been failing. Then why are you against marriage?" they ask me. Love affairs are failing because first the marriage was arranged by the astrologer, then it was arranged by the parents, and now it is being arranged by biology, by instinct. You suddenly feel that you like a woman, but you don't know how long this is going to last and you are not even aware why you like her. You are not even alert to what it is in you that likes her. Maybe it is just her hairstyle. Now, are you going to get married to a hairstyle?

My love-life drama now reflects an old saying of humphrey bogart's: women -- they're hell to live with, and hell to live without. What to do?

Deva Abhiyana, one has to pass through this hell. One has to experience both the hell of living with a woman and the hell of living without a woman. And it is not only true about women, it is exactly true about men too. So don't be a male chauvinist pig! It is applicable both ways, it is a double-edged sword. Women are also tired of living with men and they are also frustrated when they have to live alone. It is one of the most fundamental of human dilemmas; it has to be understood. You cannot live without a woman because you don't know how to live with yourself. You are not meditative enough. Meditation is the art of living with yourself. It is nothing else than that, simply that: the art of being joyously alone. A meditator can sit joyously alone for months, for years. He does not…