According to Osho, your fear of women—and boredom with your wife—comes from lifelong conditioning that trains men and women to distrust each other. By twenty, this fear hardens into an armor, blocking warmth, trust, and real meeting; love cannot flow, so relating turns stale. Consciously drop this conditioning: see the other as like you, open your heart, offer warmth, and participate in each other’s lives.
You feel scared and bored because you were taught to distrust love; unlearn that, be warm and open, and real connection returns.