According to Osho, a boyfriend spoiling for a quarrel often signals that love is alive; worry only when he stops. Meet it consciously - keep the energy playful and 'sophisticated,' not primitive or violent. Accept love's madness without trying to remake him; understand his tendencies and your own. Use humor, awareness, and gentle boundaries to transform friction into intimacy, never allowing harm.
If he picks a fight, it can mean he cares—stay calm, keep it playful and safe, and don’t try to change him; just don’t let it turn harmful.