According to Osho, you are not a thing that others can reach or confirm; you are an impenetrable inwardness—pure consciousness. Others see only your periphery; only you can know your center. So 'losing yourself' as an object is impossible; at best love lets you forget separateness for moments. The real move is inward: recognize and witness your own privacy, rather than seeking dissolution through others.
You’re a private inner awareness only you can feel, so don’t try to vanish into others—turn inside and notice the living presence you are.