According to Osho, parents become cruel when they treat children as extensions to complete their unfulfilled ambitions and to gain a false immortality, using them as means rather than honoring them as ends. To avoid repeating this, love for love's sake: revere the child as a unique guest, drop projections and ideologies, refuse to mold, and give unconditional respect, space, and freedom to unfold.
Don’t use kids to finish your dreams; just love them and let them become themselves.