According to Osho, only you can melt your stone-like nature by ‘dying’ to the ego: drop the self-delusion through alert awareness. No guru, God or ritual can do it for you; they can only show the path. Light your own inner lamp, walk yourself, and let the false ‘I’ dissolve; then softness, fluidity and grace appear.
Stop waiting for someone to fix you; watch yourself carefully and let go of the stubborn ‘me’ so your heart can soften.