What should I do to get lost utterly and ultimately into absolute love?

Osho, I want to get lost utterly and ultimately into absolute love. What should I do?

Dharmo, the very idea of getting lost utterly, ultimately, absolutely, is demanding too much. Be a little more human, don't aspire to the impossible. The impossible has been driving people to unnecessary hysteria, and we have been burdened with impossible values for centuries. We have learned these words and we go on repeating these words parrot-like without even taking in the significance. Be human, don't aspire to perfection in any way because all perfectionism is neurosis. Be human and accept all the frailties and limitations of human beings. Why should you want to be lost utterly? For what? What are you going to gain from it? If it CAN be managed -- it is good that it cannot be managed -- but for argument's sake I am saying if it can be managed, you will come again with: "Now I am feeling very lonely, utterly lost, absolutely lost, ultimately lost!"…

In everything there is a limitation, and when one understands one's limitations there is no problem. One follows the limitations -- one does whatsoever one can do and one enjoys doing it. Otherwise you can be bogged down with your own concepts and become burdened. My suggestion is that for one month you simply drop all concepts about love. Start from abc -- as if you don't know anything about love... and in fact you don't know; in fact nobody knows. Love is not an object of knowledge, nobody can know it. The people who really know it will always say that they don't know and the people who don't know will claim that they know, because the very experience of love is ineffable. So for one month, start from ABC. From this very moment start from abc: enjoy small things and don't hanker for the big.

Question: BELOVED OSHO, HOW CAN I LOVE BETTER? Love is something eternal. It is the experience of the buddhas, not the unconscious people of whom the whole world is full. Only very few people have known what love is, and these same people are the most awakened, the most enlightened, the highest peaks of human consciousness. If you really want to know love, forget about love and remember meditation. If you want to bring roses into your garden, forget about roses, and take care of the rosebush. Give nourishment to it, water it, take care that it gets the right amount of sun, water. If everything is taken care of, in the right time the roses are destined to come. You cannot bring them earlier, you cannot force them to open up sooner, and you cannot ask a roseflower to be more perfect.

Osho, how to know how much of love is a dream and how much is real?

The man was shocked—he had expected praise: “Ah, you are a great devotee! Blessed one! Fruits of births of merit!” None of that—on the contrary Ramakrishna seemed annoyed: “You have given me a problem.” Reluctantly the man picked up the sack and went to the river. He did not dare say no; having offered, who is he to argue? Many times he thought of running away midway—who knows if Ramakrishna is following? But he was scared—people fear saints may curse them; and “they see within,” read thoughts with the third eye! “Not good. Let what has happened be finished.” He delayed and did not return. Ramakrishna said, “It is taking too long; where is he? Let’s go see.” What was the man doing? He had gathered a crowd at the ghat. He would ring each coin on the stone—cling, cling—count: five hundred seventy-seven, then throw into the river; five hundred…

Osho, you have titled this series of talks “Sahaj Yoga.” Do “sahaj” and “yoga” not seem mutually opposed?

Anand Maitreya! They don’t just seem opposed, they are opposed. But no ultimate truth of life can manifest without contradiction. Life is made of opposites—darkness and light, day and night, woman and man, negative electricity and positive electricity, birth and death. The very structure of life is woven of opposites. Hence the opposites are not only opposed; they are complementary to each other. If you have labored hard all day, you will be able to sleep deeply. Labor and rest are opposites, yet only the one who has worked can rest deeply—and the one who has not worked cannot. So the opposites are not only opposed, they complete each other. And only the one who has rested deeply at night can rise in the morning and engage in work again. One who has not rested through the night will not be able to work in the morning. Look closely at…