According to Osho, repeated emotional blows flatten the personality like a steamroller: you end up a 'mashed potato'—identity blurred, pieces scattered, no longer fixable in the old form. When it has gone that far, patching is futile; recognize the finish of what you were instead of trying to reassemble it.
Too much hurt can squash who you think you are into mush, and you can’t press it back into the old shape.