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Should I get married by my own choice or according to my family's wishes?

Let your choice arise from meditation, for only when your aloneness is luminous can marriage gain its true dignity.

— Osho
According to Osho, neither your family's wishes nor your personal impulse should decide; let the choice arise from meditation. Two 'sleeping' people multiply misery; first make your aloneness luminous, then marriage gains dignity—or becomes unnecessary. He isn't pro- or anti-marriage; he’s for awareness. Decide only after inner clarity, otherwise you’ll merely trade one form of suffering for another and look for someone to blame.

First become peaceful and whole by yourself through meditation, then choose marriage (or not) from that clear place—not from family pressure or restlessness.

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