How do men help women to become enlightened?

Beloved Osho, you usually say that women help men to become enlightened. How is it vice-versa?

Latifa, I usually say that women help men in attaining enlightenment, and you must have been wondering what the situation is vice versa. To help somebody towards enlightenment needs immense patience, needs great love. The woman has a few higher qualities. In the first place, the man more or less becomes interested in enlightenment because his wife is interested. Not to be interested in something in which the wife is interested is to keep a cold war going twenty-four hours a day in the house; it is wiser to go with the woman. The vice-versa will be very difficult. The vice-versa means the man pushing the woman towards enlightenment. In the first place, who is going to look after the house? And a dozen nasty children... just your great contributions to the world. Afraid that one day you will have to die, you are leaving so many examples that whether…

Beloved master, theoretically speaking, enlightenment and women are just great. But what about practically speaking?

Hamish rushes into the shack and cries out, "Have you got any vaseline?" Hearing this, Bruce jumps up and yells, "Okay, okay! I will do the dishes!" Paddy and Sean are deep in the mountains on a hunting trip, when they stop to rest. Paddy gazes at Sean and says, "You know, I'm a pretty big fellow. If I had a heart attack or broke a leg, how would you get me out?" "Don't worry," replies Sean. "Last year I shot a sixteen-hundred-pound elk, way back in the hills, and got it out all right." "How did you manage that?" asks Paddy. "Simple," says Sean, "it took me twelve trips." Paddy goes to the horse races in Dublin. In the evening, he walks into a pub and orders a large brandy for himself and drinks for everyone in the bar. "And have one yourself," he tells the bartender, generously. Half…

Osho, I want to go deep into meditation. But then I get scared—what will happen to my wife and children? Vanquish my fear! Reassure me!

Wives dread Sundays—the husband at home, the children at home—such upheaval! You can somehow manage the children—but how do you manage the husband? If he’s in the house, he will tinker with something. He’ll open a perfectly running clock to “fix” it. He’ll pop the car’s hood though it’s fine. He has to do something—he can’t sit idle. He’s used to doing. He barks orders in the office; he’ll bark at home. He’ll find fault in everything. Wives are so pleased when the husband goes to the office—the headache’s gone, the commotion gone. Children to school—bliss! And do you think the children are thrilled to have you at home? “Don’t speak loudly—Daddy’s home! Don’t play—Daddy’s home! Don’t dance—Daddy’s home!” If you become peaceful, Hariprasad, no harm will come. Your wife will be happy: “Wonderful—he sits with eyes closed. Keep sitting like that! You look beautiful!” And the children will say,…

Osho, dionysius is again an enlightened male master. It it more difficult for a woman to become enlightened than it is for a man.?

Samya, YOU don't understand the trouble! But he can become a perfect Master. This much is enough: if a male disciple is ninety-nine point nine per-cent a disciple he will become enlightened, he will become a perfect Master. But the woman is a perfect disciple -- so perfect that the idea to become the Master never arises in her. She is so contented in being a perfect disciple, she is so fulfilled, there is no intrinsic necessity for it in her. This is my observation: every male disciple deep down has the desire one day to become the Master. Hence many male disciples have betrayed their Masters, because they could not wait long. One of Mahavira's greatest disciples was Goshalak, who betrayed him, because one thing was certain: unless Mahavira died he would not have the same position, the same power. Even if he became enlightened he would be just…

Beloved Osho, I hear you, your loving compassion for me as a woman, behind your words, which sometimes jar me. And I also feel that my very woman-ness is the main barrier to my ever experiencing the bliss of enlightenment, because all of the enlightened beings you ever talk about are men, and because your own experiences are as a male. Please share with me what you can about how enlightenment is for me as a woman.

History is recorded by men, and women are not interested in recording things. They are more interested in experiencing and living them: that is one thing. The second thing is that a woman finds it very easy to become a disciple, very easy to become a disciple, because she is receptive. For a man, it is difficult to become a disciple because he has to surrender, and that is the trouble. He can fight but he cannot surrender. So when it comes to disciplehood, women are perfect. But just the opposite happens when you have to become a Master. A male can easily become a Master. A woman finds it very difficult to become a Master, because to become a Master you have to be really aggressive. You have to go out and destroy others' structures. You have to be almost violent; you have to kill your disciples. You have…