According to Osho, you miss the essence precisely by asking 'how' and turning being into a goal. The essence is already present; any method, technique, or path makes noise and postpones seeing. Drop striving, relax into silence, be receptive—feminine, passive, non-doing. In that unforced pause, recognition happens; God reveals, you don't achieve.
Stop trying to get it; sit quietly, do nothing, and let it show itself.