Why do wives often close their eyes during love-making?

Osho! If a man does not find sexual fulfillment with his wife, he goes to other women. In doing so he feels guilty, because he receives all other comforts from his wife and wants her for all those things. When he feels guilty his mind becomes tense. What should he do so that his mind is not tense, or should he stop going elsewhere for his sexual satisfaction?

Notice this: a naked woman will not arouse you as much as a woman undressing will. Even if she is crude and awkward, her undressing will be more exciting than seeing the most beautiful woman already naked. When she is already naked, your imagination has no work to do. But when a woman slowly removes her clothes, one by one—this is the method of striptease and cabaret everywhere—your curiosity deepens: just one more, one more, one more... Nasruddin’s beloved bought a miniskirt. Modern, but a little shy. She said, “Look, Nasruddin, this skirt is so short, what if my underwear shows? Please check—can you see my underwear? Otherwise, if people see it, it will be vulgar.” Nasruddin looked. “No, it doesn’t show.” She bent a little more. “Now look. Now it doesn’t show?” “It doesn’t show.” She bent more. Nasruddin said, “Nothing shows.” She bent even more. Nasruddin said, “Absolutely…

Beloved Osho, somehow I can't believe my laughter, if it's true, but I always believe in my tears. Please comment.

And do you know why women close their eyes when you make love? -- just to avoid seeing you. You are doing such a nasty thing to them, they don't want to see; they don't want the light on. The man is finished within seconds, because only he is making movements. Neither the man attains orgasm nor the woman attains orgasm. Orgasm needs a little more articulateness, a little more skill. Orgasm needs first a long foreplay -- unless sex is accepted as natural, it is not possible -- a foreplay with incense burning, a music record going on, Irene Pappas singing! And before you start making love -- love should not be an immediate thing -- you should dance, you should sing, you should prepare your bodies to rejoice, you should prepare your bodies for the thrill. And waiting is a thrill. You should make love only when it…

Osho, my husband loves me so totally that he has never thought of another woman in his life, and we have lived together almost twenty-five years. I cannot believe it although it is true. What do you say about it?

NIHARIKA, I CANNOT BELIEVE IT EITHER! ONCE THERE WAS A MAN whose name was Unbelievable. He was married to a very nice woman and the two of them were a very contented couple. One day Unbelievable was so sick that he knew he was dying, so he called his wife and said to her, "Darling. I have spent my whole life being called by this idiotic name. Now that I am dying please promise me one thing -- not to put this name Unbelievable on my gravestone. You can put a saying or a picture, anything, but not my name. I do not want to carry it into eternity." So the wife agreed. When he died she put a saying on his gravestone which read "Here lies a faithful husband who never betrayed his wife." From that day people would pass by and read the gravestone and say, "It's unbelievable!"…

Beloved Osho, I cannot look into your eyes. As soon as I see you my eyes close. And I don't know if it is cowardice and fear or a natural happening. Please tell me what is going on.

ARUP, SO IT HAS HAPPENED! IT IS NOTHING BUT PURE LOVE. Don't make it a problem. Don't think about it -- allow it. The more you love me, the more it will happen, because love can know even with closed eyes, love can see even with closed eyes. Without love, even open eyes are not open. And with love even closed eyes are open. And when the outer eyes close, the inner eye opens. And how long are you going to see me with the outer eyes? Sooner or later you have to dissolve into the inner. You are fortunate, Arup, it is a blessing. Don't make a problem out of it. The mind is such that it goes on making problems even out of blessings. And if you make a problem out of it, there are many people to give you advice. Somebody will say, "This is cowardice." Somebody…

Question: OUR BELOVED MASTER, YAKUSAN ONCE ASKED HIS DISCIPLE, UNGAN, "I HEARD THAT YOU KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH THE LIONS -- IS THAT TRUE?" UNGAN REPLIED, "YES, IT IS." YAKUSAN ASKED, "HOW MANY OF THEM DO YOU GET AND DEAL WITH?" "SIX," UNGAN REPLIED. YAKUSAN THEN SAID, "I ALSO KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH THE LION." UNGAN ASKED, "HOW MANY DO you GET?" YAKUSAN REPLIED, "ONLY ONE." UNGAN THEN COMMENTED, "ONE IS SIX; SIX IS ONE." LATER ON, WHEN UNGAN VISITED ISAN, ISAN SAID, "I HAVE HEARD THAT WHEN YOU WERE WITH YAKUSAN, YOU HAD A CONVERSATION ABOUT GETTING AND DEALING WITH LIONS. IS THAT TRUE?" "YES, IT IS," REPLIED UNGAN. ISAN ASKED, "DO YOU CONTINUE TO DEAL WITH THEM, OR DO YOU SOMETIMES STOP DOING THAT?" UNGAN REPLIED, "WHEN I WANT TO, I DEAL WITH THEM; AND WHEN I WANT TO STOP, I STOP.