What is the relationship between love and desire?

So understand—your question is: What is the relationship between love and desire?

In ordinary love there is a great deal of desire. The love between husband and wife holds desire in large measure. In affection (sneh) there is less, but still some. Even the love and attachment to one’s son or daughter carries a hidden ambition: tomorrow the son will grow up; whatever ambitions I could not fulfill, he will fulfill. Which father does not wish to fire the gun from his son’s shoulder? I could not make money though I wanted to; my son will. I shall die, but my son will keep my name alive. That is why for centuries people have been mad for sons. A daughter is born and they are not so delighted, because through her the name does not continue. A son is born, the name continues. And the desire to perpetuate one’s name is desire—it is the journey of the ego: “My name must remain!”…

Are all desires the same? What is my desire for love?

IN THE ULTIMATE SENSE, all desires are the same -- because desire means you are not contented with yourself as you are. Desire is a discontent. Essentially, desire is a longing for that which is not. Essentially, desire is a complaint against existence. You say: "This is not the way I want to be. This is not the house I want to live in, and this is not the woman I want to love and be loved by. This is not the world, this is not the society, this is not the body, this is not the mind, that I can be content with." Desire means discontent, and desire means a hope in the.future -- that somewhere there must be a place where everything will fall in tune with you. Desire means that "I am not in tune with the world as it is, so I hope for another world…

Osho, what is the difference between surrender and blind imitation?

So be careful: the freedom you allow yourself, allow the other too. You have no right to judge another as blindly credulous or as a surrendered being. Drop that concern. You cannot judge anyway—how will you enter another’s heart? How will you know? Think only about yourself. See within whether, up to now, you have lived by blind belief or by surrender. Decide only there; leave worrying about others. Otherwise, all your judgments will be wrong. Jesus said: Judge not; do not set yourself up as a judge in relation to another. To the friend who has asked: if you are asking for yourself, good. Drop worrying about others. Look within and see: whatever I have been clinging to till now—have I ever staked my life to hold it? Have I meditated for it? Have I loved for it? Or am I just clutching what culture, society, civilization handed me?…

Osho, one feels sexual desire, one also feels love—but how does one experience the rasa of devotion, bhakti-rasa?

If you go very deep in your love for a woman—very deep in your desire for her—then sooner or later, along with her body, a little glimpse of the consciousness within her will begin to appear. Slowly, sex transforms into love. Therefore all those who have tried to understand man have said: if sexual relationship with the same person persists for a long time, it is good; otherwise love will never be born. That is why love is being lost in the West. After two or three years you change the woman; after two or three years you change the man. Just as one changes a car when a new model arrives. Then the sapling of love cannot take root. For love to take root, it needs some time, a certain span. Love is not a seasonal flower. Sex is a seasonal flower: plant it and in six weeks it…

While a man desires a woman, his mind is bound as closely as a calf to its mother.

AS YOU WOULD PLUCK AN AUTUMN LILY, PLUCK THE ARROW OF DESIRE. FOR HE WHO IS AWAKE HAS SHOWN YOU THE WAY OF PEACE. GIVE YOURSELF TO THE JOURNEY. "HERE SHALL I MAKE MY DWELLING, IN THE SUMMER AND THE WINTER, AND IN THE RAINY SEASON." SO THE FOOL MAKES HIS PLANS, SPARING NOT A THOUGHT FOR HIS DEATH. DEATH OVERTAKES THE MAN WHO, GIDDY AND DISTRACTED BY THE WORLD, CARES ONLY FOR HIS FLOCKS AND HIS CHILDREN. DEATH FETCHES HIM AWAY AS A FLOOD CARRIES OFF A SLEEPING VILLAGE. HIS FAMILY CANNOT SAVE HIM, NOT HIS FATHER NOR HIS SONS. KNOW THIS. SEEK WISDOM, AND PURITY. To desire a woman or a man, or desire at all, both are expressed by the same word, kama. The reason is very psychological, profound. Sanskrit is one of the most profound languages of the earth, very deliberately evolved. That is exactly the…