According to Osho, there is no paradox between being an individual and melting into the commune: the conflict belongs to personality, not individuality. Personality is a social mask that fears dissolution; individuality is your inborn nature, unlosable. Communion, love, and friendship dissolve the mask, allowing true individuality to flower and effortlessly participate in the commune.
There’s no real conflict—drop the costume others gave you, and the real you can easily join and share with others.