According to Osho, self-identity is whatever is naturally present in you right now — even the wish to be different. It is not an ideal to manufacture but a fact to relax into with absolute humility. By accepting your given suchness as destiny or God’s way, inner tension dissolves; peace, silence, and joy arise. Resistance breeds neurosis; consent reveals your authentic being.
Be exactly what you are, including your feelings and wishes, and stop fighting it—then you’ll feel calm and happy.