What is the law of giving and receiving in love?

Question: BELOVED OSHO, LOVE GIVES NAUGHT BUT ITSELF AND TAKES NAUGHT BUT FROM ITSELF. LOVE POSSESSES NOT NOR WOULD IT BE POSSESSED; FOR LOVE IS SUFFICIENT UNTO LOVE. WHEN YOU LOVE YOU SHOULD NOT SAY, "GOD IS IN MY HEART," BUT RATHER, "I AM IN THE HEART OF GOD." AND THINK NOT YOU CAN DIRECT THE COURSE OF LOVE, FOR LOVE, IF IT FINDS YOU WORTHY, DIRECTS YOUR COURSE. LOVE HAS NO OTHER DESIRE BUT TO FULFILL ITSELF. BUT IF YOU LOVE AND MUST NEEDS HAVE DESIRES, LET THESE BE YOUR DESIRES: TO MELT AND BE LIKE A RUNNING BROOK THAT SINGS ITS MELODY TO THE NIGHT. TO KNOW THE PAIN OF TOO MUCH TENDERNESS. TO BE WOUNDED BY YOUR OWN UNDERSTANDING OF LOVE; AND TO BLEED WILLINGLY AND JOYFULLY.

Question: Second question: Osho, is love life itself? Is it aliveness? What is a well, after all? Merely a window through which the ocean peeks. The well is connected below to the ocean, to endless springs. It is just a little aperture where the ocean has looked out. Do not be afraid. You too are an aperture through which the Divine looks. Do not fear. You are connected. Pour yourself out and you will find you expand. Hold back and you will shrink and rot. And then a vicious circle begins: if you hold back, do not share, do not give love, fear arises—“Everything is already drying up; if I give, I will have even less.” You clamp down even more. The more you hold, the less you have; you keep drying up. Be brave. Give—and see.

Question: The third question: Can there be surrender without love? It seems many times you don’t even think what you are asking! Love and surrender have the same meaning. What kind of surrender can there be without love? And if there is no surrender, what kind of love is it! Without love, surrender cannot be. What passes for surrender without love is not surrender; it is compulsion. As if a man were to place a knife on your chest and say, “Surrender!”—and you had to. He says, “Come on, surrender—the watch, your wallet—surrender them.” In the panic of the knife you surrendered; that is not surrender. That is helplessness. From this you will take revenge; if you get a chance, you won’t spare him. This is not surrender; this is violence. Surrender means: voluntarily, by your own will.

Osho, you have titled this series of talks “Sahaj Yoga.” Do “sahaj” and “yoga” not seem mutually opposed?

Anand Maitreya! They don’t just seem opposed, they are opposed. But no ultimate truth of life can manifest without contradiction. Life is made of opposites—darkness and light, day and night, woman and man, negative electricity and positive electricity, birth and death. The very structure of life is woven of opposites. Hence the opposites are not only opposed; they are complementary to each other. If you have labored hard all day, you will be able to sleep deeply. Labor and rest are opposites, yet only the one who has worked can rest deeply—and the one who has not worked cannot. So the opposites are not only opposed, they complete each other. And only the one who has rested deeply at night can rise in the morning and engage in work again. One who has not rested through the night will not be able to work in the morning. Look closely at…

Beloved Osho, someone once told me the saying: "all that you put into the lives of others comes back into your own. "it has been with me ever since, and I feel it to be true. Can you please talk about this? It keeps coming up a lot for me.

But Zeno said, "I am not going to argue with anybody. Even if somebody says in the day that it is night, I will say, `Yes, it is night.' I am not going to argue, because if I win in any argument, then I have to pay half the fee to you. That I am not going to do." Almost a year passed and he did not argue with anyone. The master even sent many people to provoke him to argumentation, but he would always be willing to accept whatever you said. You say, "God exists" and he says, "Yes, God exists." You say, "God does not exist." He will say, "God does not exist, I am in absolute agreement with you. The question of argument does not arise." Finally the master, who himself was a great arguer, thought of a strategy: he should bring him to the court, sue…