When no one tries to be above anyone else, people naturally get along and enjoy being together.
From the Discourses
Passages where Osho speaks to this question — each links to the complete discourse.
Beloved Osho, one of the security men who was here with us for a while said to me, "you're a wonderful group of people." and he was so surprised that we never fight with each other. This harmony here is truly a miracle, and yet feels so natural. Beloved Osho, could you say more about this magic. And are there there any ways your disciples can help one another on our adventure to consciousness?
Because somebody just likes a cup of tea in the morning, he would have to hide -- close the doors and prepare a cup of tea. And others would be watching and trying to find out why he closes the doors in the morning, why he is keeping a stove in his room. And when he is out somebody may search and find some tea leaves. And he is exposed and brought before Gandhi as a criminal -- that he has been hiding tea leaves. Every morning he has been closing his doors, and one knows not what he was doing with the tea. What can you do with tea? At the most you can drink tea! What else can you do? And slowly there were factions -- somebody else was also doing it -- and those who were in favor of tea would become a party: "Alone we cannot…
Beloved Osho, I sense something wonderful, something incredible happening to you over there in your chair. And more and more over the years, I sense something really wonderful happening within me over here. For me, it is not enlightenment -- I know that. But it is like a harmony with you. Osho, can you say something about how I can reach through the smoke of the mind to bring this wondrousness, this beautiful feeling of giftedness out into the open so that it can grow?
The phenomenon of harmony is one of the most mysterious experiences possible. It means that two bodies are still two bodies, but the two souls within them are no more two. One soul within two bodies: That's exactly the meaning of harmony. It is the most exquisite experience. Ordinarily we are living in conflict, in disharmony. The husband is living in disharmony with the wife -- they call it living together. But unless this oneness arises, their togetherness is nothing but an underground conflict, erupting at any moment for any meaningless, silly reason. Both are sitting on volcanoes. Parents are feeling a generation gap between themselves and their own children. There seems to be no common ground of understanding; harmony is a faraway goal. They don't even understand each other's language -- not that they speak different languages, but their visions are different, their attitudes are different, their approach towards…
A friend has asked: Osho, how will the development of material civilization harmonize with a life aligned to Tao’s spontaneous nature? Won’t human society have to return to a primitive state?
What is there to fear? Even if we had to return, what is there to fear? What harm would there be? What have we attained anyway? We have only lost; we have not gained anything. So first, there is no need to be afraid of the so‑called primitive. Because what we call civilization today—what is it except a great disease? Still, I do not believe that we will have to go back. In existence, there is no going back. But even if we did—no harm. Because you have nothing that could be lost. You have nothing. Your situation is like a naked man taking a bath and wondering, “Where will I wring my clothes? Where will I dry them?” What is there to wring, what is there to dry? What could be lost? What have you gained? There is noise, uproar all around—so it looks as if something is being…
It will help... you will become completely fearless. Fear arises because we are not in tune with ourselves. In a harmonious moment there is no fear. Fear is a discord, a disharmony in the being. Fear simply shows that we are not happy. In deep happiness there is no fear. It simply disappears, as darkness disappears when there is sunrise. So get more and more in tune with music, singing, dancing, and you will be unburdened. This feeling that some changes are happening in the body may be true, not just imagination, because when you change inside, your body also changes. The body has to readjust again with your new being. So allow it, whatsoever it is. Sometimes you may even feel painful, awkward, strange, difficult to accept, but still accept it -- whatsoever it is. Always trust the body... the body never lies.
One has to become aware that this asking for too much commitment or for too much freedom, are both immaturities. Somewhere one has to come to terms with the other person. Once you understand that man needs more freedom, you put down your demands for commitment. Once the man understands that the woman needs commitment, he puts down his demand for freedom, that's all. If you love, you are ready to sacrifice a little. If you don't love, it is better to separate. So you talk together, but talk -- I'm not saying to fight and hit each other. No need if you are too hot right now -- wait two or three days -- but always come to an understanding that will be a growth to you. [The Tao group are present. One participant says: It was good to just relax and not resist.