According to Osho, misery doesn’t come from stopping self-love but from clinging to an unreal self. Loving “yourself” or others from that fiction only gives brief relief and recurring pain. When the false self is seen through, the need for the other dissolves; love remains unaddressed as pure presence, bringing bliss. Then love flows without demands, and no longer creates suffering.
It’s not that you forgot to love yourself; the hurt comes from a made‑up self—see through it, and a calm, need-free love simply remains.