According to Osho, the family-versus-self dilemma misses the point: marry neither by anyone’s “choice,” but only when love ripens through deep acquaintance. Without love, don’t marry—live alone and wait. Arranged or self-chosen marriages based on brief selection invite suffering and blame. Let a lived, tested love naturally become lifelong companionship; otherwise, avoid the institution.
Don’t marry because parents say so or from a quick choice—marry only if real love grows over time; if not, stay single.