Is there a simpler way to prepare for a meeting with a prospective partner than using Devavani Meditation or Active Meditation?

Osho, whenever someone from the girl’s side comes to see me as a prospective groom, I immediately start Devavani Meditation or Active Meditation in my room. My family is annoyed. Is there any simpler way?

In my vision of humanity there is no place for marriage. The arrangements for children should be made by the commune, by the collective. And the collective should allow only as many children as it can care for; no one should have the right to produce more. Because the collective will take care, the collective should decide what kind of people should have children. Not everyone should have the right to procreate. The lame, the crippled, the blind, the half‑deaf, the witless, the malformed, the ugly—who knows what all kinds—mad, deranged—are all producing children! They are filling the earth with filth. We behave with more sense about cows and bulls, about dogs. After all, the breed of dogs improves day by day, because the wrong dogs aren’t allowed to breed. I’m not talking about Indian dogs. Outside India. In India all dogs are stray. There’s no accounting here—here even humans…

Question: Osho, you have spoken of two paths to reach the Divine—love and meditation. My situation is that a feeling of love does not well up in my heart. It isn’t that I don’t want to love anyone; it just isn’t my temperament. I like to be quiet and sit in silence. So I chose the path of meditation and began the practice of witnessing. Now the difficulty is this: the moment I become aware that I am watching my thoughts, the thoughts stop and there is a momentary experience of bliss; then a stream of thoughts starts again. And then again I watch them—and again and again the same thing. In my situation I don’t see any progress. Am I making some mistake somewhere? Or is my choice of the path of meditation wrong?

[NOTE: This is an unedited tape transcript of an unpublished darshan diary, which has been scanned and cleaned up. It is for reference purposes only.] [ To be a lover or to be a meditator is easy enough; it's a little trickier when you try to combine the two. But that's what Osho envisages for us, he told Prem Dhyan tonight.] It is the challenge and a challenge worth accepting because only through that challenge does one grow. Growth is an uphill task and this is the greatest challenge, this is the Everest, the highest climb -- dangerous, hazardous, but the more dangerous it is the more enchanting, the more intriguing, the more interesting it is. The more dangerous it is, the more adventure it contains. It is easy to love without meditation because then love is very ordinary, it is biological.

If you want to be together for a long time, don't be together too much. When people are in love, they are almost mad. They think this is sadhana and everything is perfect. Nonsense! It is good but it cannot be a substitute for sadhana. It can be a help, it can be a hindrance, but it can never be a substitute for sadhana. And if you think it is a substitute, it will become a hindrance. Soon you will feel lost in the desert. Make it a help. It is good to be with the beloved -- just enjoy being there but continue meditations, otherwise you will feel guilty. The guilt has a message. It is not wrong. It is simply saying that you also know what you are doing. It is a sort of infatuation, not a sadhana.

And there is nobody else who is giving any alternative, because nobody has the guts to accept all the condemnation that will come. But I am immune to condemnation, because except condemnation nothing has ever come to me. So it does not bother me at all. I have not lost a single moment's sleep for it. I have never thought about it. I have gone on saying whatsoever feels right to me. Nobody has answered me in these thirty years, but everybody from every religion, from every political ideology, has condemned me. They have given no argument against my argument, nor have been able to propose another alternative.