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Is the concept of sannyasins making love to their friends' women still valid?

Love must be free, unowned, and uncontracted; when it blooms, embrace it fully, and when it fades, let it go without jealousy or guilt.

— Osho
According to Osho, it’s more valid than ever: love must be free, unowned, and uncontracted. He rejects marriage and possessive family, urging communes where relationships follow living love, not law, priest, or promise. Because love is a changing rose, there is no “my woman”; when love happens, be together, and when it fades, part—without jealousy, guilt, or social interference.

Don’t try to own love—be with whoever you truly love now, and let go kindly when love changes.

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You once said that sannyasins should make love to their friends' women. Is this still valid?

It is more valid than it ever was. I am against marriage. Marriage is one of the sicknesses which have tortured humanity for centuries. It has not given anything, but it has taken away much. My idea is, the family should disappear. It is out of date. People should live in communes -- five thousand people living together. The whole village becomes a commune. Nobody is married to anybody, but whomever you love, you live with that person. There is no reason why law should come in between you and your lover. The policeman, the magistrate, the registrar of marriages, the priest and the church... why this whole queue? Love is enough. This queue was invented because people became aware: today you may be in love with someone and tomorrow the love disappears. All real things are changing; only unreal things don't change. If your love is made of plastic,…
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Saheb Mil Saheb Bhave · Discourse 3
1980-07-13 · Pune · Hindi · English translation

Osho, can you tell what was in front of the window? What were they seeing through that hole?

Whoever keeps repeating a lie becomes a lie. Whoever holds a lie in place becomes, little by little, a corpse—dead, a hypocrite. When there is no love, you have to say there is love, to proclaim there is love, to put on a show of love. A thousand devices are needed—because love is gone. If love is there, it is enough; no need to bring a sari, no need to bring bouquets or buy garlands—love is sufficient. Love has its own air, its own fragrance. But when love dies, then bring saris, bring jewelry, bring gifts; somehow make up for what has died, gather a few hollow contrivances to maintain the deception that love is there. Because once a promise was made—now how to break the promise! But what can you do? This fire is such that you cannot light it, you cannot put it out. You are helpless. Love…
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Bahuri Na Aiso Daon · Discourse 3
1980-08-03 · Pune · Hindi · English translation

Osho, in the Ramayana it is stated quite clearly that a person should marry only once, and that even looking at another man’s wife is a sin. The free, unrestrained experiments you speak of in your commune—won’t such conduct lead society in the wrong direction?

But a world founded on suspicion is not a good world. I want a society where people love—but do not suspect. And that can happen only when this diseased institution of marriage ends. Marriage is a great sickness. It has rotted humankind. Love is enough. If you love someone, live together your whole life; if love is deep, live together for many lives. But the basis must be love. The moment you impose bonds, the moment you begin to obstruct each other’s freedom—love begins to die. In human life there are two great longings: one is love, the other is freedom. And so far we haven’t managed to arrange a life where both thrive together. Some pursued love—and lost their freedom. Others pursued freedom—and lost their love. Those who pursued freedom became sannyasins, monks, mendicants, ascetics—fleeing to the forests. They say they flee the world, but if you understand what…
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Unio Mystica Vol 1 · Discourse 10
1978-11-10 · Buddha Hall · English

Morarji desai said in an interview given to "sunday": "rajneesh puts emphasis on the socialization of woman." he said, "just as prostitutes are socialized, he wants all women to be socialized." he also said, "rajneesh goes even further and says that there is no need of marriage. Rajneesh also advocates free sex." what do you say about it, beloved master?

Let things cool down, let things become ordinary. Let them see wether they can manage with ordinary life, with day-to-day problems, and only then allow them to get married. That too should be temporary. Maybe every two years they have to come back to renew it; if they don't come, it is finished. The licence should be renewed every two years, and whenever they want to separate, no problem should be created. AND HE SAID, "RAJNEESH ALSO ADVOCATES FREE SEX." WHAT DO YOU SAY ABOUT IT? It is very difficult for Morarji Desai and people like him to understand what I am saying. What I am saying really means transcendence of sex. I am not teaching sex, I am teaching love. But in people's minds there is no difference between love and sex. In their minds love means sex, because they have not known love, they have only known sex.…
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Sanch Sanch So Sanch · Discourse 5
1981-01-25 · Pune · Hindi · English translation

Osho, what is the definition of God?

Words are very small. If you say God is light, then what of darkness? The scriptures have said that God is light. Suppose we accept this as a definition—then what about darkness? Where will darkness go? Darkness is too; in fact it is far more than light. Light sometimes is and sometimes is not; darkness is always, eternal. Where will you place darkness? If you say God is light, darkness is left out. If you say God is darkness, then light is left out. If you say God is both darkness and light, a contradiction arises: they cannot be together. Try to have both darkness and light in the same room. If you bring in light, darkness disappears; if you preserve darkness, you cannot have light. Then how can both be together? That becomes an impossibility. So you cannot say “both” either. Then the fourth device is to say: it…
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