According to Osho, your suspicion of your wife is a projection of your own self‑mistrust and repressed desires. Until you accept and trust yourself—including natural attractions—you will read your inner conflict onto her. Drop repression, own your impulses, and cultivate self‑acceptance; trust in yourself flowers into trust in others, dissolving chronic suspicion and the need to control.
Trust and accept yourself first, or you’ll keep projecting your hidden urges onto your wife as suspicion.