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What happens when someone with a troubled past enters a marriage?

When marriage is a rescue mission for a wounded soul, it becomes a marketplace of misery rather than a garden of love, where healing is sacrificed for the illusion of salvation.

— Osho
According to Osho, when marriage is entered to rescue a wounded person, the wound is unconsciously preserved: her misery becomes bargaining capital and his savior-ego needs it to feel rewarded. Such a bond is not love but a marketplace deal, so joy withers, manipulation grows, and both remain tied to unhappiness rather than healing or intimacy.

If you marry to fix someone’s pain, both of you keep the pain alive because it’s what the relationship depends on.