According to Osho, you grow not by fighting society’s walls but by withdrawing your inner cooperation with them through awareness and authenticity. Our attitudes, guilt, and repressions build the walls; recognize anger and love as one life-sap and express them rightly and totally when true. By living authentically instead of suppressing, the self-made barriers collapse and vitality flowers.
Be honestly yourself and express real feelings at the right time; then the made-up rules that box you in lose power and you can grow.