According to Osho, totality is not extremity but balance: it happens in the middle when you stop choosing between opposites and let them dissolve into each other. By remaining choiceless (neti-neti), love and hate cancel, birthing compassion. An undivided, nonsplit awareness acts wholly without leaning, so you are total yet never extreme.
Don’t pick sides inside—hold both feelings gently, stand in the calm middle, and your whole self can act kindly.