According to Osho, only inner awareness makes true awareness of others possible; without awakening within, you merely project your dreams and prejudices onto people. Begin by being 'selfish' in the higher sense—lighting your own flame—then perception clears, projection drops, and you genuinely see others as they are. Enlightened 'selfishness' becomes a blessing that naturally helps and understands others.
Wake up inside yourself first, then you can really see other people instead of imagining them.