According to Osho, feelings are ‘rejected’ when they remain mere words and sentiment. Trust means an unconditional yes, proved in action, not declarations. Without embodied commitment—he points to sannyas as such proof—your approach stays a performance, not a meeting. Hope and reverence are welcome, but unless they ripen into decisive trust, they cannot be received as real.
Warm feelings don’t count unless you show your yes with a clear step, not just words.
From the Discourses
Passages where Osho speaks to this question — each links to the complete discourse.
You say that when he has come from so far, with so much hope and reverence, why are his feelings rejected?
You are only playing with words. Perhaps even their meanings are not clear to you. Do you understand what trust means? Trust knows how to say “yes.” “No” does not exist in its language. That much is the meaning of trust: if there is trust, then say “yes” now. Give evidence that there is trust. Saying it is not evidence. Do something that becomes evidence. Give proof for trust. Sannyas is the proof of trust. But even then, if you want to meet me without becoming a sannyasin, you certainly can. Only, that will be just a performance of meeting. As you wish.
Beloved Osho, why don't I trust you?
How long will you be able to pretend with a person with whom you have to live in love? You can pretend in the marketplace, you can pretend in the Lions' Club and the Rotary Club -- smiles, all smiles. You can do beautiful acting and role-playing. But if you live with a woman or a man for twenty-four hours a day, then it is tiring to go on smiling and smiling and smiling. Then the smile tires you, because it is phony. It is just an exercise of the lips, and the lips become tired. How can you go on being sweet? Your bitterness will surface. Hence by the time the honeymoon is over, everything is over. Both have known each other's reality, both have known each other's phoniness, both have known each other's falsity. One is afraid to become intimate. To be intimate means you will have to…
My feelings tell me that until I know you, I can't trust. And yet you say until I trust you, I cannot know you. What to do?
You can know me scientifically. My doctor comes to examine my body; he knows me in a way. You don't know me in that way, you know me in a totally different way. My doctor is afraid to come to listen to me, because he does not want to lose a patient. If he listens to me, then I will be the doctor and he will be the patient! He comes and he is in a hurry to escape. Once it happened that he was holding my hand -- I had some trouble with my thumb -- and something happened to him which was not scientific. Outside the room, he told Vivek, "He is God, he IS God!" -- but since then I have not seen him, he has simply disappeared. Something nonscientific, something which was not of the head.... He felt me for a moment but became frightened. Watch.…
The original meaning of the word respect is beautiful. It means looking back, re-spect, looking once more. It has nothing to do with honor. It has to do something so beautiful that you would like to look at least one time more. And it is non-ending. How many times you look at it, the desire, the longing, the thirst goes on growing rather than diminishing. You want to be more and more closer to the Master, more and more filled by His presence, His light, His silence, His love. So something in it is like re-spect. Something in it is like love. You cannot do anything about love. Suddenly it happens. You find one moment in love with someone for no apparent reason. You yourself feel a little embarrassed. You start looking inside you, what may have been the cause. But there is no cause.
There is no need to want to trust, and you cannot create trust. Whatsoever you create will be false, artificial. So don't want to trust; that is meaningless, that is not going to help. If the distrust is there, it is there; just watch it. Don't force trust on top of it, otherwise you can hide it but sooner or later it will come again. So just watch it; it is there. Meditate, dance, sing, do a few groups, and it will go. When it goes on its own then trust will arise, and that will not be something brought by you. Something brought by you will not be of much value; it will not have any significance, it will be pseudo. I can understand; and this is not only with you, this is with everybody: how can you trust me, mm? -- there is no reason to trust me.