According to Osho, feeling tired of sex is natural because sex dissipates energy downward; exhaustion signals maturity to move beyond it. Don’t repress or medicate—enter sex consciously, see its futility, and you will naturally drop it. Redirect energy upward into meditation and creativity; this non-repressive freedom from sex unlocks nourishment, awareness, and the inexhaustible treasures of samadhi.
You’re tired of sex because it drains your energy; take it as a sign to let it fade naturally and use that energy for meditation and more nourishing things.
From the Discourses
Passages where Osho speaks to this question — each links to the complete discourse.
Question: BELOVED MASTER, WHY AM I TIRED OF SEX? Sandhan, sex is tiring -- and that's why I say to you: Don't avoid it. Unless you know its stupidity you will not be able to get rid of it. Unless you know its sheer wastage, you will not be able to transcend it. It is good that you have started feeling tired -- that is natural. Sex simply means energy being dissipated downwards. The energy has to move upwards, then it is nourishing. Then it opens inexhaustible treasures in you -- aes dhammo sanantano. But if you go on and on into sex like a maniac, soon you will find yourself utterly exhausted, wasted. A newly married couple go to Niagara Falls for their honeymoon. When they arrive, they immediately check into a hotel and are not heard of for three days, no room service or anything.
I am getting very bored with sex and that creates anxiety. It seems as if I am losing interest in life itself. And then what is left there except death? What should I do?
A boy of twelve went to his father with a little girl of ten, a neighbour's daughter. 'Dad,' he said, 'we want to get married.' 'Yes, son, in ten years.' 'No, Dad, now!' 'What are you going to live on?' 'We can manage on her pocket money and mine.' Said the father (playing along with the joke), 'Oh, I see, and what if she has a baby?' 'Well, Dad, nothing's happened so far.' From the age ten, and even before that, you start. How long can you remain unbored? And all kinds of things have become available in America -- Vatsyayana's 'Kamasutras' and pictures and picture books of Khajuraho, Konarak and Puri, and a thousand and one methods of creating beautiful bodies -- at least an illusion of beautiful bodies -- through photography, photographic tricks. Pornography has become so important that it is killing your sexual desire. Hefner is the…
Beloved Osho, can it be true that sex is already over? I have been your sannyasin for four and a half years and my body is thirty-one years of age. I never planned to drop sex, but now it feels like it has dropped me. Am I a quicky or what?
Psychology has accepted that body and mind don't grow together. Sometimes, most of the time, the mind is lagging behind and the body goes on growing. A few times, in rare cases, the mind grows ahead and the body lags behind. When Emerson, a great creative and sensitive man, was asked about his age, he said, "Three hundred and sixty years." The people who were present could not believe it; they could not believe that Emerson, a man of truth, a very innocent man, a man loved and respected by all those who could understand the heights of consciousness... why should he lie about such a thing? Three hundred and sixty years old? -- he does not look more than sixty. What to make of it? Finally, one man asked, "Perhaps I could not rightly hear what you said. Will you please repeat it?" Emerson laughed and said, "Why are…
For the first time you will see what sex should be. Ordinarily people are just obsessed by sex. It is not a natural thing. It is almost like a burden... a constant worry about it. It is more like a performance; it is more like a duty that one has to do. If you do it, you don't gain much. If you don't do it, you feel you are losing much; maybe you are missing something. So it is a very vicious circle -- and that's what has been up to now. So before sex becomes normal and natural, there will be a time in which you will lose interest -- in that time don't be afraid. You are not going to become a buddhist nun -- don't be afraid, mm? And by chance you had to listen to Buddha lectures, mm?
It is simply a fact that it is the lowest peak. That's why it is available through nature -- you are born with it; other peaks you will have to learn and grow to. They have to be earned, one has to become worthy of them. But sometimes it happens that sex naturally disappears -- maybe because of your past lives, maybe in this life you have seen it too much and you are disillusioned. And if you cannot be disillusioned in France, where can you be disillusioned? That seems perfectly logical... absolutely logical! But don't be worried! [Osho then checks her energy.] Good. Very good. I don't think you can get it back... and I am happy that you cannot get it back! You can force yourself into it but it will be mechanical.