According to Osho, enforcing rules feels difficult not because of the role itself but because a repressed, unconscious urge to dominate gets triggered by authority. That hidden desire creates fear, rigidity, and aggression. The remedy is awareness: give guidance in a nonauthoritative tone, stay fluid and egoless, and use the role as a mirror to dissolve the dominance-drive and grow spiritually.
It’s hard to tell others what to do because a hidden bossy part wakes up; notice it, stay kind, and use the job to become freer inside.