According to Osho, buried rage at men for history's injustices only keeps the wound alive and imprisons your feminine intelligence. The response is not revenge but alchemy: transform that hurt into love and creative energy. Reclaim the "witch" - the wise, motherly capacity to heal and transmute sexuality - through awareness and meditation, so the past loses its grip and your being becomes a source of transformation rather than repetition.
Don't stay angry at men; use awareness and love to turn that pain into healing power.
From the Discourses
Passages where Osho speaks to this question — each links to the complete discourse.
Beloved Osho, from your answer to the woman who falls in love with bank balances, not the man, I realized that I can't even see the man, let alone love him. I have accepted my mother's angry conditioning towards men. When a man comes to me with his love, I run away, which encourages him to chase me. This game I play is so ugly. Please Osho, help me to drop this garbage, to be able to see men and to know their beauty, their gifts, their love.
I know another woman in Ahmedabad who waited her whole life for Pandit Jawaharlal Nehru to marry her. Jawaharlal was not an enlightened man, and there was every possibility ... And very strangely, in his old age he fell in love with Lady Mountbatten and they were writing such letters to each other that teenagers write. They were so foolish .... But this woman belongs to the richest family of Ahmedabad -- I used to stay in their home -- and she is so ugly. Jawaharlal was a beautiful man; I cannot conceive that he would ever have thought of this woman when any woman would have been ready to marry him. But she was thinking only of her richness. I know both the women. The woman who was in love with J. Krishnamurti used to come to see me also. I have seen in both these women's eyes such…
Beloved Osho, I am very angry with women. I don't like woman. Why is woman selfish? Why has woman no intelligence? Why is a woman like a cat? Osho, why do you put woman on the way of tao?
Woman is what man has made of her. It is a vicious circle. Man has deprived woman of education and other social institutions, of economic freedom. And then you ask why women are unintelligent? You are the cause. Women have as much intelligence as any man -- because intelligence has no concern with sexual hormones. Do you think if you changed Albert Einstein into a woman with plastic surgery, he would lose his intelligence? He would still remain Albert Einstein, but in a woman's body. The difference is only of bodies; the difference is not of consciousness, not of intelligence. But unfortunately man decided to repress woman. For centuries it has not been clear to historians why it had to happen in such a way. But the latest psychological research makes it very clear why it happened: it happened because man feels a deep inferiority complex in comparison to woman.…
That is one of the very basic problems women are facing all over the modern world. It is not just your question -- it is a problem for the modern woman. The problem is that for centuries they have never done any creative work -- they were not allowed; they were repressed. So they had lived with ordinary day-to-day household work. They have lived below their capacities. Now suddenly in the modern world that has disappeared. Women have become free. Now they are no more tethered to the household affairs, and they don't know what to do with their energy, because for centuries they have been doing only that work. Now that work is no more there, or even if it is there, it takes only a part of their energy and the remaining part remains unapplied. That unapplied and unoccupied part of energy will become destructive.
Osho said that control comes through the way we breathe and that if one breathes deeply in love-making, one will go almost wild, because the sex centre is massaged internally by the breath. So everything -- sex, anger, violence, crying -- has been repressed.] The second thing -- whenever you can find time, go into the darkness. Go to the river bank alone, and just sit. If you feel afraid, feel afraid, but don't escape. Soon you will see when fear by and by settles down, that darkness is so cool... and so warm at the same time. It is a womb... it surrounds you. It enhances your life energy. Out of darkness you will come more relaxed, vital, rejuvenated. These two things you start, mm? And if a chance arises and you are with a woman and you start feeling afraid, just immediately remember to let God breathe you.
Question: A ZEN STUDENT CAME TO BANKEI AND SAID: 'MASTER, I HAVE AN UNGOVERNABLE TEMPER -- HOW CAN I CURE IT?' 'SHOW ME THIS TEMPER,' SAID BANKEI, 'IT SOUNDS FASCINATING.' 'I HAVEN'T GOT IT RIGHT NOW,' SAID THE STUDENT, 'SO I CAN'T SHOW IT TO YOU.' 'WELL THEN,' SAID BANKEI, 'BRING IT TO ME WHEN YOU HAVE IT.' 'BUT I CAN'T BRING IT JUST WHEN I HAPPEN TO HAVE IT,' PROTESTED THE STUDENT. 'IT ARISES UNEXPECTEDLY, AND I WOULD SURELY LOSE IT BEFORE I GOT IT TO YOU.' 'IN THAT CASE,' SAID BANKEI, 'IT CANNOT BE PART OF YOUR TRUE NATURE. IF IT WERE, YOU COULD SHOW IT TO ME AT ANY TIME. WHEN YOU WERE BORN YOU DID NOT HAVE IT, AND YOUR PARENTS DID NOT GIVE IT TO YOU -- SO IT MUST COME INTO YOU FROM THE OUTSIDE.