According to Osho, women with a stronger male element tend to act dominantly, often assuming the 'husband' function in relationships. Yet this dominance conflicts with their deeper feminine nature, leaving them persistently dissatisfied—especially with compliant men—because they unconsciously seek a stronger partner to whom they can relax and surrender. Such marginal gender ratios, reinforced by culture, breed tension, role confusion, and chronic unhappiness.
If a woman is more masculine, she may lead, yet still want someone stronger, so she stays restless and unhappy.
From the Discourses
Passages where Osho speaks to this question — each links to the complete discourse.
Osho, some women have a masculine nature...
In truth, being male or female should not be marginal. But the order we have developed is gradually becoming marginal; many people have come to stand on the margin. Civilization has done this. Civilization has made the roles of women and men almost the same. This has caused harm: it has reduced the woman’s femininity and the man’s manhood. Whereas it is necessary that the two be at extreme poles. A man should be ninety-nine percent male and one percent female—the one percent will remain; it cannot be escaped. A woman should be ninety-nine percent female and one percent male. For this it is necessary that they have different bodily exercises, that there be some difference in their diet, that their education be different, that the whole discipline of their lives be different. Then we will be able to place them as polarities. And the day human understanding grows, that…
What happens to women who are of masculine nature?
So being a man or a woman should not be a marginal thing. But the kind of system we have developed is by and by causing men and women to live marginally. We have only our civilization to blame for this. In fact the way our culture has evolved, it has made the roles of men and women almost identical. This has proved harmful. Because of it the woman's femininity has declined, and so has man's masculinity -- although ideally, both need to be on the extreme poles. A man should be ninety-nine percent male and one percent female -- one percent effeminacy is bound to remain, that he cannot avoid. A woman should be ninety-nine percent female and one percent male. For this to be possible, it is necessary that there should be different exercises for both, different diets, different kinds of education. It is essential that their entire…
A friend has asked, Osho, the Gita says that whatever desire a person holds at the time of death, that is the birth he attains next. So if a person has spent his whole life in sin, and at the moment of death desires to become like Mahavira or Buddha in the next life, can that man become like Mahavira and Buddha in the next birth?
No one really wants to do religion; therefore we postpone it. We say, we’ll do it in old age—what’s the hurry now? There is great hurry to sin! That must be done now, it can only be done in youth. We’ll do religion in old age. And if some young person becomes religious or eager, the so‑called wise advise him, “It is not your age yet. For now, do irreligion.” Their meaning is: now is the age for sin. As long as strength is there, sin away; when strength is gone, then do religion. But is strength necessary for sin and not for religion? Is life necessary for sin, power necessary for sin—do you take religion to be some eunuch’s task that needs no strength! Remember, the very energy with which you sin becomes virtue. And when that energy is no longer in your hands, you can neither sin nor…
Question: CHAPTER 6: SUTRA I & 2 THE SPIRIT OF THE VALLEY 1. THE VALLEY SPIRIT DIES NOT, EVER THE SAME. THE FEMALE MYSTERY THUS DO WE NAME. IT'S GATE FROM WHICH AT FIRST THEY ISSUED FORTH. IS CALLED THE ROOT FROM WHICH GREW HEAVEN AND EARTH, 2. LONG AND UNBROKEN DOES ITS POWER REMAIN, USE GENTLY AND WITHOUT THE TOUCH OF PAIN. Even in the matter of sex, woman is passive. Never in the history of the world has a woman been accused for an outrage. This is an impossibility for her. A man commits outrage. 99 times out of 100, whatever man does, is an oppression. The relationship that a husband keeps with his wife is also 99% violent for the woman keeps her silence and this is taken for assent. The arrangement of our society further obliges her with some duties towards her husband.
Osho, yesterday you spoke about the feminine mystery of existence. Kindly shed more light on this subject in greater detail.
All the dimensions of existence can be divided into the feminine and the masculine. The division of woman and man is not merely a sexual division. In Lao Tzu’s vision, the division into feminine and masculine is the very dialectics of life, an essential part of life’s dialectical evolution. Man and woman differ not only at the level of the body; they also differ at the level of the mind. Wherever existence manifests, there the polarity of feminine and masculine will appear. But in understanding Lao Tzu, keep one thing in mind: the masculine is the transient form of existence, and the feminine is its eternal form. Like the wave that rises on the ocean—its rising is momentary. The ocean was there before the wave, and will be there after the wave. Femininity is the ocean of existence; the masculine is a passing wave. Hence the Judaic tradition that narrates…