You become truly yourself when you drop the pushy ego and follow steady, helpful rules you choose—just rebelling isn’t real freedom.
From the Discourses
Passages where Osho speaks to this question — each links to the complete discourse.
Beloved master, you want us to be individuals, but during work in the ashram we have to be very disciplined. Discipline and individualism -- are they not diametrically opposite?
Discipline is the way to create individuality. But remember: to be an individual is not to be an individualist. Individualism is an ego trip. And the people who believe in individualism are not individuals, remember -- remember well. Deep down they know they are not individuals, hence they create a facade of philosophy, of logic, of argument, because deep down they don't feel they are individuals. They pretend on the outside that they are individuals -- they believe in individualism. Believing in individualism is not becoming an individual. Belief is always false. When you are an individual you need not believe in individualism. When it is a truth of your being, belief is not needed. Belief is needed only to cover things: you don't know about God and you believe in God. The believer is an atheist. He may be a Christian, a Hindu, a Mohammedan, a Buddhist, it doesn't…
You said that those who want to attain need discipline and effort at first. Is that not a thing of the ego, and will it not become more strengthened? I have always been hard on myself and missed much of the joys of life. Please explain the difference between discipline and control.
A student learns the word, the dead word; a disciple just learns the secrets of understanding, and when he has his own understanding, he goes on his own way. He pays his respect to Lao Tzu and says: Now I'm ready, I'm grateful, I go my own way. He will always be grateful to Lao Tzu -- and this is the paradox: people who have been deadly following Jesus, Buddha or Mohammed can never forgive them. If you miss your joys of life because of them how can you forgive them? How can you really be in gratitude? In fact you are deeply in anger. If you come across them you will kill them, you will murder them because these are the people who have forced you into a controlled life; these are the people who didn't allow you to live as you would have liked to live; these are…
Osho, could you say something about what is going on in Delhi?
I’ll tell a little story. When Lanka’s former ruler Ravana was on his deathbed, Rama sent Lakshman to learn statecraft from him—saying, “Son, we may have won, but we have no experience of running the administration here; go and ask him how to run things.” Lakshman went there and said to Ravana, “You are dying now—tell us how to govern here.” Ravana said, “Half the politics I handled, half Kumbhakarna did. Had you gotten in touch with Kumbhakarna as well?” Lakshman said, “Yes—he said: eat to your heart’s content and then sprawl on the sofa with your eyes closed. This is the best method.” “Tell me,” Ravana asked, “are you going to unleash dictatorship, or will you run things by democracy? Which method will be suitable?” “What will go down well with the people?” “Nothing,” said Ravana. “When you impose dictatorship, the people will yearn for democracy; and when you…
Osho, what is the fundamental anguish of human life?
There is only one anguish: that a human being cannot become what he was born to be. There is only one anguish: that the seed remains a seed and does not bloom like a flower; that it cannot scatter its fragrance to the infinite winds; cannot converse with the moon and stars; cannot offer its colors to the sky; cannot be expressed. If the poem within the poet cannot be revealed—anguish. If the painter cannot paint—anguish. If the dancer cannot dance—if chains lie on his feet—anguish. Anguish means only this: that what we are meant to be—our innate nature and destiny—does not come to fruition, and we are forced to be something else. Then anguish is born. Then melancholy gathers over life. And all those countless people you see burdened with sorrow, living in a kind of hell—the reason is only this: each has come carrying the seed of becoming…
Osho, for us who are asleep, perhaps the enlightened have only one proclamation: You’ve slept enough—wake up. But not everyone can wake up at once; at best, one among millions awakens. So the buddhas of the past also gave disciplines for the asleep, which have now become outdated. What discipline will you give them?
And don’t imagine that if Mahavira had forbidden raising the finger too, nothing could be done. The eyes can gesture as well—no need to lift a finger. Fix your gaze on the gulab jamun—matter settled! Buddha told his monks, “Do not ask for anything, because who knows whether the person has the means to give or not? If you ask and he is compelled to give, the whole thing becomes tasteless, ugly. So accept whatever comes.” One day a monk was returning with alms in his bowl when a kite flying overhead dropped a piece of meat, which fell into his bowl. Buddha had said, “Whatever falls into your bowl, accept it.” The monk wondered, “This meat has fallen into my bowl; I didn’t ask. Should I accept it?” But Buddha had said nothing about such a situation, so the monk thought it proper to ask. In the sangha he…