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According to Osho, you are not on the wrong track: love, sex, and romance are natural and, when lived consciously, become the very path to awareness and prayer. Embrace both pleasure and pain; they teach balance like a tightrope walker. Avoid condemnation and repression; they breed ugliness. Live your energies in their right time; from lived foolishness flowers the wisdom you seek.
Loving fully and learning from both good and hard moments—without guilt or suppressing yourself—is how you grow real and wise.
From the Discourses
Passages where Osho speaks to this question — each links to the complete discourse.
You say, remove all your masks and be authentic. I think only of sex, love and romance. I don't know anything else except this. Am I on the wrong track?
I don't see anything wrong in sex, in love, in romance. You are on the right track. Love is the right track, and only through a lived life of love, prayer arises -- never otherwise. Only out of deep experiences of love, sweet and bitter, pleasant and painful, high and low, heaven and hell; only out of deep experiences of pain and pleasure through love does one become aware. They are needed to make you aware. Pain is as much needed as pleasure, because both work. And by and by, between the pleasure and the pain, you become a tightrope walker. You attain to balance. But for centuries love has been condemned, sex has been condemned. So of course, the idea arises in your mind that you must be on the wrong track. You are simply natural. To be natural is not to be the wrong track. If you think…
Beloved Osho, I found out that my two basic interests are sex and meditation. Am I doing right? I want to be your favorite disciple. What to do? Which is the worst question to ask you?
For what do you want money? For what do you want power? Have you watched that all other interests are centered on sex? A man without money will not be able to get the most beautiful woman; a man without power will not be able to get the most beautiful woman. All your so-called desires are centered on a single fact, a single interest, and that is sex. Just live it, and live it joyously without any fear of hell or heaven. There is no hell, no heaven. Once you are out of sex, once it has disappeared like smoke disappearing into the sky and you cannot see it, then meditation is so easy. You don't have to make any effort, you have just to sit silently with your eyes closed, relaxed, and you will find meditation is there. Sex and meditation...? You will not be able to live sex…
Osho, you have titled this series of talks “Sahaj Yoga.” Do “sahaj” and “yoga” not seem mutually opposed?
Anand Maitreya! They don’t just seem opposed, they are opposed. But no ultimate truth of life can manifest without contradiction. Life is made of opposites—darkness and light, day and night, woman and man, negative electricity and positive electricity, birth and death. The very structure of life is woven of opposites. Hence the opposites are not only opposed; they are complementary to each other. If you have labored hard all day, you will be able to sleep deeply. Labor and rest are opposites, yet only the one who has worked can rest deeply—and the one who has not worked cannot. So the opposites are not only opposed, they complete each other. And only the one who has rested deeply at night can rise in the morning and engage in work again. One who has not rested through the night will not be able to work in the morning. Look closely at…
Question: Third question: Osho, I want to voice the pain of my heart, which I have never expressed to anyone till today. My mind has become fragmented. On one side there is love for satsang and the longing to meet the Divine, and on the other side a constant pull, every moment, toward physical sexual desire. Even into mature age I have not been able to be free of it. Understanding comes but remains incomplete. And despite many experiences of the female body, the tendency torments me even more. All the good sayings and teachings remain outside. I stay the same! Forgetting everything, I become greedy. Lust surrounds the mind. Even in dreams the same thing goes on. By what practice may I gain freedom or equanimity? Please show the way. Have compassion.
Even if sometimes love-like feelings arise in my heart, immediately the next moment I start feeling 'this is not love, this is not love at all: it is all my hidden cravings for sex and all that'.
The questioner seems to be afraid and antagonistic: "It is all my hidden cravings for sex and all that." There is a condemnation in it. Nothing is wrong; man is a sexual animal. That's how we are. That's the way life means us to be. That's how we have found ourselves here. Go into it. Without going, you will never be able to transform it. I'm not speaking for mere indulgence. I'm saying move into it with deep meditative energy to understand what it is. It must be something tremendously valuable because you have come out of it, because the whole existence enjoys it, because the whole existence is sexual. Sex is the way God has chosen to be in the world, notwithstanding what Christians go on saying -- that Jesus was born out of a virgin woman -- all foolishness. They pretend that sex was not involved in Jesus'…