According to Osho, when a man admires a woman yet feels like a fool, an unconscious inferiority awakens: she is naturally creative and contented, while he feels a missing link and rushes to prove himself—through success, conquest, or control. That overcompensation breeds foolishness and domination masks. Seeing this mechanism, one can drop the competition, relax into being, and love without trying to outdo or impress.
You feel silly because you try to show off when she already feels okay; stop competing and just be real and kind.