According to Osho, self-judgment is a social disease planted by parents, teachers, and culture; it feeds the ego’s lust for power and turns life into mutual condemnation, making love and friendship impossible. See this conditioning clearly, stop cooperating with the inner critic, forgive yourself, and drop judging others; from this awareness, the heart opens naturally and joy and maturity blossom.
Notice the scolding voice you learned from others, let it go, be gentle with yourself, and your kindness will naturally open your heart to others.