According to Osho, you come closer to others not by effort or willpower, but by dropping the doer. Doing strengthens ego—the very wall between hearts. Surrender, relax into receptivity, and let joy dissolve you: dance, sing, celebrate, be present. In losing yourself, openness appears, and closeness happens on its own.
Stop trying to make closeness happen; relax, be open and playful, and let connection come by itself.