According to Osho, don’t begin with the enemy; start by opening to your friend—drop fear, secrecy, and defenses, allowing genuine vulnerability. Inclusiveness is a quality of consciousness, not a target person. Cultivate it by seeing how the “outside” already participates in you—perception and feelings arise within. As openness deepens, embracing even the enemy happens naturally, without hypocrisy.
First learn to be fully open with your friends and notice your experiences come from within; then including an enemy will happen by itself.
From the Discourses
Passages where Osho speaks to this question — each links to the complete discourse.
You have said, `learn to include more and more of existence into your being. Draw energy from the root source of all existence. Be inclusive even of your enemy.' how can I be inclusive of my enemy while at the same time going fully into the emotion of hatred? Does this not lead to suppression?
Now scientists say this -- that the color is given by you. Everything in nature is colorless; there exists no color. Color comes into being when rays travelling from a particular object meet your eye. Then the color is created. So color is given by your eye. It is a meeting of the tree and you where green-ness happens. The flowers are there in bloom: the scent comes to you, and you smell it. But that fragrance also is given by you; it is not in nature. Only waves are coming towards you which you translate as smell. It is your nose which smells it. If you are not there, there will be no smell. There have been philosophers like Berkeley or Nagarjuna, Shankara, who say the world is unreal, it exists in your mind, because whatsoever we know about the world is really given by us. Because of this,…
Each thing is perceived through knowing. The self shines in space through knowing. Perceive one being as knower and known.
BELOVED, AT THIS MOMENT LET, MIND, KNOWING, BREATH, FORM, These techniques are to change knowledge into experience. These techniques are to change acquaintance into understanding. That which belongs to a Buddha or to a Krishna or to a Christ, through these techniques can belong to you -- that can become your own. And unless it becomes your own, no truth is true. It may be a grand lie, a beautiful lie, but no truth is true unless it becomes your experience -- individually, authentically your own. Three things. First: always remember that your house is on fire. Second: don't listen to the Devil. He will constantly say to you that there is no hurry. And thirdly: remember, acquaintance is not understanding. Whatsoever I am saying here will make you acquainted. It is needed, but it is not enough. It starts you on a journey, but it is not the end.…
Can cowardice and hypocrisy also be beautiful? Can I accept even my cowardice, my hypocrisy, my miserliness and a tendency towards privacy that you yourself have called "idiocy"? And if I accept such tendencies, all of which tend to bottle me up, how will I get free?
See the beauty of fear, see the alchemical work of fear. It is simply trying to prepare you for the situation so that you can accept the challenge. But rather than accepting the challenge, rather than understanding fear, you start rejecting it. You say, "Ashoka, you are such a great man, a great sannyasin, and you are trembling? Remember what Osho used to say, that there is no death, that the soul is immortal. An immortal soul, and trembling? Remember what Krishna said: 'Death cannot destroy you, fire cannot burn you, weapons cannot penetrate you.' Remember! And don't tremble: hold yourself in control!" Now you are creating a contradiction. Your natural process is that of fear, and you are bringing in an unnatural process to contradict fear. You are bringing ideals to interfere in the natural process. There will be pain, because there will be conflict. Don't bother whether the…
Intelligence is impartial. No one is your enemy and no one is your friend. All are equally your teachers. Your enemy becomes a mystery to be solved—even if solving it takes ages—for man must be understood. Your friend becomes a part of yourself, an extension of yourself—and he too is difficult to understand.” If you are to study the human heart, you must be impartial; otherwise study is impossible. If your sides are fixed in advance, whatever you discover will merely be a rediscovery of your own belief, a repetition of your opinion. You will only prove yourself right. This is how we live. Our side is decided beforehand; then we go “in search of truth.” That search is false from the very start. If your position is fixed, the matter is already spoiled. At Rajasthan University there is a professor who researches ghosts and rebirth.
Question: BELOVED OSHO, BECAUSE OF YOUR GENIUS IN COMBINING AND THEN GOING BEYOND THE MATERIAL AND THE SPIRITUAL, AND BECAUSE YOU SEEM TO HAVE AN ABUNDANCE OF BOTH WORLDS, I THINK THAT MANY NON-SANNYASINS AND SANNYASINS FEEL JEALOUS OF YOU. PEOPLE RESENT AND DON'T WANT TO FEED ABUNDANCE. IF THEY FEED ANYTHING, THEY FEED POVERTY. IF YOU WERE SITTING IN A CAVE, NAKED, COLD, AND MEDITATING, IT WOULD BE ONE THING, BUT YOU ARE NOT. SANNYASINS WHO NEVER DREAMED OF HAVING A ROLLS ROYCE SEEM TO YEARN FOR ONE MORE THAN FOR THE STATE OF MEDITATION EVEN AFTER SPENDING YEARS WITH YOU. YOU SEEM TO BE SPARKING GREED FOR THE MATERIAL, RATHER THAN A YEARNING FOR THE BEYOND -- OR AT LEAST THAT'S THE MESSAGE THAT'S BEING RECEIVED BY SOME. COULD YOU COMMENT. I will teach you to love yourself.