Why do I feel fully alive only when I am in love?

Osho, why is it I feel fully alive only when I am in love? I tell myself that I should be able to spark myself without the other, but so far no luck. Is this some stupid "waiting for godot" game I am playing with myself? When the last love affair ended I swore to myself I was not going to let the same old deadening process happen, but here I am again feeling half alive, waiting for him to come.

Then Peter said, "This door is meant only for those who are not henpecked husbands. Why you are standing here when the whole queue is standing at the other door?" He said, "What can I do? My wife has told me to stand here! And even if GOD says to me, I cannot leave this place unless my wife allows!" Man has reduced woman into a slave and the woman has reduced man into a slave. And of course both hate the slavery, both resist it. They are constantly fighting; any small excuse and the fight starts. But the real fight is somewhere else deep down; the real fight is that they are asking for freedom. They cannot say it so clearly, they may have forgotten completely. For thousands of years this is the way people have lived. They have seen their father and their mother have lived the same…

Osho, never before have I felt so much love and never before so alone. Thank you, Osho...

Carl Gustav Jung has made these words very famous. He divided people basically into two types: the introverts and the extroverts. That is a wrong division. People cannot be categorized that way. People cannot be pigeon-holed this way. I have never come across anyone who is just introvert -- he will die immediately, because he will have only the in-breath. I have never come across a person who is just extrovert -- he will die too. People are both. It is possible that one is more of an extrovert than an introvert, and vice versa. And that's what brings imbalance to your personality. One should be both simultaneously. One should be balanced. My sannyasins have to be extrovert introverts, introvert extroverts -- both together. This is one of the most important things to be understood, because in the past the monks have tried to be just introverts. They were called…

Question: Second question: Osho, is love life itself? Is it aliveness? These are now scientific findings; not poetry or stories. Many laboratories in the world have reached decisive conclusions: love increases life. The rose you love will produce larger flowers—of course it will, because you have given it dignity. The life of the plant is thrilled; it wants to delight you because you delighted it. You gave to it; it wants to return. What more can it do but blossom into a larger flower? Under the love of true Masters, disciples have attained the Divine—sometimes without any doing at all. And at other times, after doing much, if the Master’s loving shade is not there, nothing happens. That is why surrender has such value. Surrender simply means: do not be a wall to the stream of love flowing from the Master’s life—be a door.

love and life are synonymous in language they may have different meanings but in existence they are precisely the same phenomenon no difference, no gap exists between the two the really alive person is pure love and if love is missing then life is nothing but a vegetation one can go on vegetating without love life has not happened at all one was born, one existed, one died but life never happened life happens only the moment love starts flowing and the greater the love, the deeper life becomes a sannyasin has to remember not to put any limitations on his love love should not become object-focussed the moment you become object-focussed you are getting trapped for example, if you love one person that means that the remaining whole existence has been rejected you have excluded it out of your love affair your love has become very narrow and a…

Beloved Osho, since falling in love, even though having little to do with him, it seems entirely my own journey. Feeling nourished and much power in my being.

The question is from Anand Amrita. Love IS nourishment. Love is exactly like food to the soul. Food is nourishment for the body, love is nourishment for the soul. Without for you will die physically, without love you will die spiritually -- in fact you will not even be horn. The body needs food, the soul needs love. And Jesus is right when he says, 'Man cannot live by bread alone.' Because the bread is bread only for the body. You will have to seek and search something which nourishes your soul. So, Amrita, be always in love. And remember one thing: Lovers don't matter, love matters. If one lover disappears from your life, don't become sour and bitter. If one lover has moved away from you, don't go on clinging to the past and the memory and the nostalgia of it. That is sacrilegious, that is insulting to love.…