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What should I do if I find my partner unattractive?

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"Transform your seeing rather than fixing the face; in the depths of your partner's being, discover the true beauty of care and reliability."

Core Insight:
According to Osho, if you find your partner unattractive, don't fix the face—transform your seeing. Meditate on your partner to grow detachment from surfaces and discover inner virtues like care, service, and reliability. Beauty can seduce the ego and invite restlessness; plainness can anchor you. Use the relationship as a spiritual training: accept, watch, and let love move from form to essence.
Look past looks: sit quietly with your partner, notice their goodness, and let the bond teach you to love the inside, not just the outside.
Why this matters practically
- Reduces fixation on appearance and jealousy.
- Reveals inner qualities that build trust and warmth.
- Turns daily relating into meditation and detachment training.
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